First Time Parent’s Perspective

Being a first time parent is everything you have heard; absolutely amazing, but also absolutely exhausting.  In order to give other first time parents a true idea of what we have/are going through, we thought it would be fun to answer questions that reflect both of our perspectives.  Enjoy ๐Ÿ™‚

Father’s PerspectiveIMG_0638

  • What do you love about being a parent?
    • The idea that our little girl is the best of both of us warms my heart. One of the things I love the most is staring into her eyes; even at 3:00am when I are dead tired.
  • What is the hardest thing to deal with?
    • Besides the lack of sleep, I hate when she is fussy and cries. The only thing I want to do is console her to make her discomfort go away.
  • What do you wish you knew before being a parent?
    • Nothing really. As crazy as it is, all the stories people tell you about your first born child are pretty accurate. By no means do we have all the answers or know all the tricks, but the beauty of it is that we will have a chance to figure it all out together for our little chiquitita.
  • What is the most rewarding?
    • So far, just watching her grow!!!! I cant wait to see her become her own little person and one day a powerful, confident, loving, and brilliant woman.  
  • What has been your favorite memory up until this point?
    • The first time I held her. The level of emotions that were flowing through me were crazy. Its true, having a baby girl changes a man for the better. 
  • What is great about having a little girl?
    • As mentioned previously, I believe itโ€™s the emotional vulnerability (in a good way), that she allows me to have. I know there will be other great things, but these are thing I look forward to in the future (walking her down the aisle, father daughter dates, being her hero, etc).
  • Is there anything that you miss before having your baby?
    • In a way having the ability to do what you want when you want; but the tradeoff of having her trump this by the tenfold! 
  • Who do you think she looks like more?
    • I think me J but I think its because she has short hair. I do see certain features from mommy on her (her lips, her eyes).
  • What are you looking for too?
    • Too many things to list lol. I am so madly in love with my girls right now. 
  • What is the cutest thing she does?
    • She puckers her lips some times like she is trying to whistle. ADORABLE!!! 
  • What is the funniest thing she does?
    • When she poops and farts, you cant help but to crack up.
  • What do you miss most about her when you are not with her?
    • Her little baby smell. Oh and I love brushing her hair after showers, she has a ton of hair!!!
  • How do you share responsibilities with your wife?
    • Right now it feels like we are splitting responsibilities 40-60, maybe 35-65. Mama is truly picking up the bulk of it. She has been such a super woman, taking care of Sofia and keeping the house together. I truly appreciate all of her efforts as I was only able to take a week off from work for paternity leave. Hine sight, raising a child, specially a new born is exhausting work. Iโ€™ve worked some crazy schedules (one time I had to work 5 months straight, 12hr shifts) and this is more tiring LOL 
  • What tip(s) do you have for other first time parents?
    • Have plenty of diapers, baby wipes, small feeding bottles, baby cloth/accessories, and breast pump before your baby arrives. Make sure you have all of you finances established for the big change. Be ready for 3-5hr of sleep nights. Make sure to watch over each other, mommy/daddy/baby; this can be an emotional roller coasted, remembers why you had a child and love the hell out of each other.

Mother’s Perspectivesofi

  • What do you love about being a parent?
    • Knowing that she is all ours.  An amazing, beautiful creation of the love my husband and I have for each other.
  • What is the hardest thing to deal with?
    • The lack of sleep is pretty intense.  People always tell you to get as much sleep as you can before you have a baby, but any pregnant woman will tell you that is nearly impossible.  Depending on how big your belly gets it can happen sooner, but by month 7 I was sleeping only a few hours a night.  So considering that I have been going on “E” for over 4 months now. :/  Another thing is doing everything by myself when Diego is at work.  From feedings, cleaning to sleeping, there is absolutely no time to really take a breather for myself.  When I finally get more than 10 minutes I enjoy every minute. lol
  • What do you wish you knew before being a parent?
    • What my husband said.  Not only did people tell us everything we needed to know, but we read books, took classes and  the doctors are your best source of knowledge.
  • What is the most rewarding?
    • Being able to be a stay at home and be with her all the time to watch how much she changes and grows; it really is the best feeling in the world.  Plus I send Diego a million pictures and videos a day so it feel like he is there with us!
  • What has been your favorite memory up until this point?
    • It really is hard to pick one favorite memory, but if I did it would be the same as my husbands.  My husband is a very strong man and is not a crier at all, so when I watched him hold his daughter for the first time, it completely melted my heart to mush.  It was from that moment I knew that this little girl would be wrapped around his little finger and he would do absolutely anything for her.
  • What is great about having a little girl?
    • To have a little mini me running around and a partner in crime.  I can’t wait to go shopping with her, get matching outfits (yes it will happen lol), talk about boys, teach her how to do her makeup, but also to make sure she is a strong, independent woman.
  • Is there anything that you miss before having your baby?
    • Being able to go and do whatever I want, whenever I want.  Even with that said, that means nothing when now I would rather be home with her all day, just to love on her and take in all those special moments as she grows.
  • Who do you think she looks like more?
    • I know everyone says she looks like my husband, but if anyone saw my baby picture they would say she is almost identical to me. lol Either way she will be a perfect mix of Diego and I, and I cannot wait to see her grow into the woman she will become.
  • What are you looking for too?
    • Everything!!!!!!!
  • What is the cutest thing she does?
    • She has these really cute noises that she does where it sounds like she is a little bird, and while she is doing it she gives little smiles and opens her mouth in the cutest way.  
  • What is the funniest thing she does?
    • Her farts are the funniest things ever!!!
  • What do you miss most about her when you are not with her?
    • Just being with her, looking into her eyes and giving her little kisses all over her face; her smell is also amazing!! 
  • How do you share responsibilities with your husband?
    • When Diego gets home he takes on more of the help with Sofia, because it gives me a chance to eat, take a nap, blog, and give my arms a much needed break. lol  At night we also do shifts of either 9pm to 1-2am and 1-2am to 6am to give us each some time to sleep.
  • What tip(s) do you have for other first time parents?
    • Going to repeat what Diego said: have plenty of diapers, baby wipes, small feeding bottles, baby cloth/accessories, and breast pump before your baby arrives. 

I hope this has/will help anyone current or future parent because the saying is very true when thy say you are not alone. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So when it gets tough don’t be afraid to reach out, and when it’s amazing don’t forget to take in every second because it won’t be like this for long. 

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