This past Friday Sofia and I headed to Nordstrom to get in on the shopping action for the anniversary sale. While we were there I saw these amazing Top Shop high waisted skinny jeans (mom jeans) that were under $50; even though I have tons of skinny jeans I figured why not try them on.
The moment I put them on in the fitting room I instantly fell in love. Not only were they super comfortable and fit like a glove, but they had such a sexy mom jean quality. It really hugged all the curves and made me feel amazing. I know for the longest time “mom jeans” have had a bad rap, but they are so hot right now and I am completely on the band wagon.
Well, I have officially been a new mom for 20 weeks now and it’s literally the most amazing and tiring job ever. I remember before and during pregnancy having so many people giving 10 million suggestions and advice, whether you want them or not. I always try to be nice and say “Thanks”, but ultimately I knew that my husband and I would do whatever would work best for our baby girl.
So with that being said, here are my biggest things I have learned as a mom to Sofia.
1.Listen to your gut: Like I said, people will give you so much wanted and unwanted advice, but you need to do whatever is best for your baby, your family, and yourself. What works for one baby/family may not work for yours.
2.Google: My husband was huge on googling (and still is) everything when it came to Sofia. I think we all know that the more you Google the more negative things, issues or whatever will pop up, which causes more worrying then you really need. So my advice is to not do it for EVERY LITTLE THING. I’m sure we all have used WebMD and it said we had some sort of disease. :/
3.Sleep and Tiredness: People tell you to sleep before you have a baby, but you really don’t understand the complete 180 degrees that you will go through. Mind you, being pregnant in the last few weeks is very uncomfortable and even if you try to sleep you can’t; at least that is the way it was with me. lol So just prepare to be a zombie for a few weeks or months until your little one is sleeping through the night; I promise it happens sooner than you think. 🙂
4.Protect: The “mama bear” reference is 100% true. The moment I had Sofia there was absolutely nothing I want to do more than protect this little baby from absolutely anything, and your life means nothing as long as hers are in good hands.
5. You become your Parents: Until the moment you become a parent yourself, the entire way you view your parents will completely change. You have a much deeper bond because you now understand all the sacrifices they did while you were growing up and why the love you so much. All those times when you were younger and you thought your parents were being uncool or didn’t want you to have fun all comes back, and you feel sorry because you know now that you would have done the same things.
6.Friendships: Unless all your friends have kids as well, this will be a big change in your social group. After you have a child you tend to bond more with other woman that have children because they completely understand everything that you go through on a daily basis. They understand to have dinner at 5 or 6pm because you beat the dinner rush so you can make it home for baby’s bed time, they don’t complain that you might be a little late to an event because even if you think you have everything ready for an outing that baby has completely other plans; just to name a few. Life is different and hopefully the true friends you have understand and are willing to take this journey with you.
7.Relationship with your Partner: Since I gave birth to Sofia, my husband and I’s relationship is even stronger than we ever have had. Seeing him as an amazing father that is completely obsessed with our daughter is the most endearing thing I have ever seen, and I cannot wait to see us a decade from now with many more kids and a relationship that will stand the test of time.
8.Being a Stay at Home Mom: For me, this was the best decision that we could have ever made. Ever since I was young I knew I wanted to be a mom and stay with my children to watch them grow. I was lucky that my parents always owned their own companies so it allowed them to always be at every event, sports games and etc., so there was no question I wanted the same for my children. Nonetheless, I want to reiterate that being a SAHM is A LOT harder than being in the workforce; at least from my perspective. It is a 24/7 job with no breaks, but it is also the most rewarding.
9. Taking time for ME: Every week I make sure I have time for just me, whether it be going to a blogging event, or heading to get my nails done. Until you have a child you really don’t realize how easy it was to just get up and go, but thankfully my husband is so supportive and understanding.
10.Get out of the House: From the moment I knew I was going to be a SAHM my goal was to not be one that just stayed cooped up in the house all day. I make it a point to get out and do things that I love with Sofia in tow. Now 20 weeks in we are complete professionals when we head out of the house, and it is so fun to get her out and about and comfortable with being in different environments. So depending on how you feel, start small and work your way up. In the beginning it was just getting her in the car seat and heading to any place with a drive thru (mainly Starbucks), but now it’s everything under the moon. 🙂
I am sorry for the long post but I hope it resonates with other moms or mom-to-be. I look forward to hearing your comments and hope you enjoyed reading because I enjoyed writing it.
Have a great Monday and I hope you subscribe. 🙂